If you have recently tested positive for an STD, you can notify your partner that they should get tested by using our free Anonymous STD Test Notification tool. We offer you super quick and easy ways to anonymously tell your sexual partner(s) to get tested for STDs. Simply enter your partner’s phone number or email address to send a notification anonymously. Your partner will receive the message telling them to get tested for STDs. It is important that your partner gets notified, tested, and treated as soon as possible.

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Here are some ideas for handling a conversation if you decide to have one:

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Imagine that your roles are reversed. What would you expect your partner to do and say if he or she were in your shoes? Be proud of your intentions. Your willingness to have this hard conversation shows that you care about the other person and your relationship. We're more likely to trust and respect people who are honest (and brave!) enough to talk about tough topics like STDs.

It's best to be direct. You could start by saying, "Before we have sex, I want us to talk about STDs and protection because I have an STD." Say what type of STD you have and how you got it. You don't have to share every detail of your past relationships, but showing that you're open to talking and answering questions can help your partner feel more comfortable.

It's best to be honest. It's better for your partner to find out because you said something before getting an infection. 

Let the conversation proceed naturally. Listen rather than doing all the talking. Prepare for your partner to be surprised. Each person reacts differently to the news. Some might get panic. Some might be full of questions. Others might just need to time to think.

Don't push your partner to make decisions about sex or your relationship right away. It's normal to want acceptance and reassurance after revealing such personal information. But give the other person some space. Make a suggestion like, "I know you probably want some time to think about this." It shows that you're confident and in control.

Encourage your partner to ask questions. As you talk, give your partner facts about the STD. If you can't answer all of your partner's questions, that's OK. Say you don't know and then go to a health clinic or search online together to learn more.

If you and your partner decide not to have sexual intercourse (vaginal, anal, or oral sex), there are other ways you can be intimate or express your feelings for one another. If you do decide to have intercourse, use condoms and practice safe sex.